Relationships are wonderful. Nothing is better than the butterflies that keep fluttering in your stomach when you get a call from your partner. When it is new, there are sparks flying everywhere. You can’t keep your hands off each other. The weekends are filled with steamy sex, and long cuddling sessions. In all, you have a wonderful life, and it just can’t get any better.
However, many people don’t get the luxury of having an enduring relationship. The reasons are endless – A partner decides to cheat on the other, or decides to sabotage his financial independence, or becomes too possessive to the extent that it becomes suffocating, the list can go on and on. Whatever be the reason, it never is easy to be on the other side when you have broken up. You need to get out and you need to get out of bad times real quick.
We bring you Ten Reasons Why You Need To Let Go Of Your Ex And Move On.
1. You Need To Find The Real You
When you are in a relationship most of your energy and attention is devoted towards the likes and dislikes of the other person, making compromises that you can and discussing topics where you cannot compromise.
There is no time for you to indulge in self pampering. On top of that, if your previous relationship was abusive, you are left with very little self esteem and most probably an emotional mess.
We advise you to take a step back and relax. Introspect. Take a look back at your life, and then decide what you want for yourself from now onwards.
You need to be as active as you can, and should evaluate the things you want further for yourself in your life. Once you have decided what you want, you can go about achieving it thereafter.
2. Because If It’s A Race, You Need To Win!
We have always believed that once two people break up, it isn’t a race after that.
But if it is, you need to win. By winning we do not mean that you get yourself into another relationship hurriedly and risk making an even bigger mistake, but what we actually mean is that you take charge of your life, and do something real good with it.
Once you are single again you are free for a lot of time.
Instead of sulking, why don’t you go for the professional specialization course that you have always wanted? Not only would that make you better as an employee, but would also get you new people to meet and new friends to hang out. So get a distraction for yourself that’s productive.
3. Because Sulking For Your Ex Isn’t Going To Get You Anything
There is nothing more counterproductive than sitting down and sulking over your ex. Your partner has moved on, and so should you. You are only going to cause yourself more harm by sulking over and over something which has left you. Instead of sulking over, get out of your comfort zone and meet new people and make some new friends.
4. You Cannot Change A Person
If the relationship had to end, it means that there were some irreconcilable differences. You have to accept the fact that no matter how much you want it for yourself, you cannot change the true nature and character of a person. If your partner had repeatedly cheated on you, we see no reason why he would stop now. If your partner has been forcing you to do something you cannot even think of doing, chances are he wouldn’t stop insisting now, or worse he or she might try to force it down your throat.
5. Because Loyalty Isn’t Rewarded With Loyalty, It Hurts, But It Is True
If you thought that because you were loyal and true in a relationship, you would be rewarded with the same virtues in return, you could not have been more wrong. It is not something you have to take blame for, it is just how the world works. If it happened with you, you should never think that it happened because of your mistake. You were not to blame, make peace with it, and look forward towards your life.
6. When One Door Closes, Another Opens
When one door closes, another opens. If it doesn’t, carve the wall with a chisel and make yourself a window. This is the attitude we recommend you harbour within yourself. If something has been taken away from you, something much greater awaits you.
7. Because Depression Is Real
Because depression is real, and it always has been. You wouldn’t even notice how quickly it would creep into your life and make you feel disabled. The real task is to stop it in its track. Every morning instead of sulking in your bed, Get Up Dress Up and Show Up.
8. Because Your Friends And Family Deserve You Too
Family has always been the ultimate strength for us when we have needed them. But you should also not forget the fact that you are what your family needs when they don’t feel like okay. So always give your family their much deserved true share of your love. If its been long since you visited them, go visit them for a change. If you have some really close friends in a nearby city, we see no reason why you shouldn’t visit them.
9. Value Those Who Value You
If you were in a relationship where you feel you weren’t valued enough, it isn’t something you should be worried about. There are always people who have loved you unconditionally and would always love you unconditionally. Such people are usually your parents, your close friends, the guy or girl who confessed to you that he or she loved you when you were too young. These are the people who would always be there for you when you need them, and these are the people who deserve your time. If you are feeling low and you feel like being alone, why don’t you give them a call and see for yourself how much you matter to others too.
10. If You Need Sex, You Should Have It
If you feel that getting laid can get you happiness, you should feel no shame in it. There is no social rule that if you have broken up and are feeling low and you want some physical intimacy for yourself, you shouldn’t have it. And if there is one, screw it. You need to go to escorts, eh, do it. The most important thing post breakup is survival and caring for your own happiness, and if that means having sex, do not ever have any second thoughts about it. If you think your best friend might help with it, invite him over. However, we do not recommend involving another ex of yours in this because well, things can get complicated. But if a wild night of physicality is what you require to get into a calm frame of mind, we don’t see any reason why you cannot have it.
You need to accept the fact that it has ended, and no matter how hard it is to swallow it down the throat, the truth is that you have to if you want any good things for you in your life. You cannot keep stagnating at a place and make a mess out of your wonderful life. You need to get out of it, and live everyday as if it were your last. You need to understand that there is only one person who is responsible for your life, and that person is you. So take the reins, and take control of your life.
As the old saying goes, The Show Must Go On.